Comments on: Expression of Love

By: Heart To Heart

Heart To Heart — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 15:38:45 +0000

Kon-Chan,this is a very interesting perspective you have on the old and new way of how Japanese men show their love and how you would like to be when you are married with children. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us at Heart to Heart English Club. It is very special to have you here with us!

By: Kon-chan

Kon-chan — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 11:54:41 +0000

Very difficult for me to comment to this subject in English…

Being modest has been a habit in Japan so long time. Almost all
the traditional Japanese people does not show their will in front
of the others, because theythought that is spineless, I think.

Fathers must have shown dignity for discipline of their family
and had to play roll as the strong top of their family.

At the same time, they might have believed that expressing
love to the other is showing their weak point.
I can understand their feelings.

But such customs has gone away from recent Japanese families,
for better or worth, and so recent fathers comes to show their
love by words or behaviors compared with the past ones.

When I get married and have my family, I will express my love
to my wife and children according to the recent habit.
Because I can not stand to tell love to my lovers.

By: Clarissa

Clarissa — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 14:42:46 +0000

You have learn`t well, Dreamer from Afar! It is good to remember those wise lessons from your father because it will ensure that your current relationship will fly you all the way to the stars!!!!

By: DREAMER

DREAMER — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 06:51:33 +0000

I like the section of the video about fighting with your wife and wanting to win.

“Don’t win! Can’t win! Don’t want to win!”

Truer words have never been spoken. That, I learnt from my father!

By: clarissa

clarissa — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 05:39:15 +0000

Thank you for your heart-felt feelings Mitsuyoshi.
Just beautiful.
I believe if we have love inside of us we can share
it with everyone naturally. Love is not meant to be
locked away but if we don`t have love we will have to
discover it inside of us before we can genuinely give
true love away.

By: mitsuyoshi

mitsuyoshi — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 04:44:00 +0000

I don’t remember how I was grown up with expression of love from our parents.
As I look myself, I understood my parents have given me love by words, touch, parties and laughter.
After experience of being abroad to San Francisco for 5 years, I influenced a lot more.
I started to shake hands, hug, kiss and telling I love you naturally.

My Dad’s expression of love to his wife is not ideal from my point of view.
I never heard of word, love, from him, but there is love between them without words.
It is nice, but I want him to express more.

Even though I am single, I want my future wife and kids to fill of love all the time.
I read books about marriage and learned a fantastic habit.
It explained 7 habit of showing love to make great relationship.
It also explained 7 habit of making a fatal mistake to break the relationship.

They are very simple habit, but easy to loose by the influence of one’s ego.
The habit can apply to family, friends, customers and others.
Everyday, I do my best to grow love and give love.